| No Images? Click here   Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day is two weeks away. Whatever your plans are — whether you’re planning to hang with friends or your S.O. or curl up in bed alone binge-watching Mindhunter — it’s impossible to avoid the onslaught of pink, red and seriously overpriced everything.If you are thinking about getting something for your S.O., know that a small, thoughtful gesture goes a long way. Unfortunately, not everyone understands that. This week, readers shared with us the absolute worst Valentine’s Day gifts they’ve ever received from an ex, and some are particularly cringeworthy. Check them out here.And note that some people aren’t big on gifts at all and may prefer some other type of gesture — a home-cooked meal, for example, or a day of quality time together. It all comes down to learning and understanding your partner’s love language, which is often different than your own. Read up here to learn more about love languages and how best to show your partner that they’ve loved — on Valentine’s Day, and every other day of the year.Xo, Ashley In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader asks, “I broke up with my boyfriend of four years due to him being emotionally abusive, but now I can’t stop thinking about him and talking to him. We have two dogs together and that plays into the continued conversation. I don’t want him back, but I don’t want him gone. Is this normal?”Psychotherapist M. Gary Neuman, New York Times bestselling author and founder of the Neuman Method, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what he had to say:“If you feel abused, the only answer is to create as much distance as possible. Obviously, it’s hard for you; it’s taken you four years to manage separating. You’re at risk to suffer much more unless you take the final step of protecting your emotions. Remember, we are vulnerable when we love. We must find people deserving of that vulnerability and only then should we entrust someone with that deeply meaningful part of ourselves.Sadly, your dogs need to go one way or the other. I have loved many dogs in my life so I understand how hard it could be to let go of them, but to engage in constant conversation about them with an abusive individual will keep you tethered to him. You could create an elaborate time sharing schedule which could avoid much communication, but my guess is he’ll never let you get any peace as long as he has a say. You could offer to take both dogs of course, but with the clear understanding that they are all yours. It’s time to cut ties with him.”Need help? In the U.S., call 1-866-331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522 for the National Dating Abuse Helpline.
#TBT  A recent story on Babe.net detailing a 22-year-old woman’s date and subsequent sexual encounter with actor and comedian Aziz Ansari got people talking about consent and bad sex in the wake of the #MeToo movement. But therapists have long been hearing similar stories in their offices from women who felt weird and uncomfortable following a sexual experience. Read on to hear their perspective and for the vital conversation they say we should be having right now. Links we love: 
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