| No Images? Click here   Eva Sless has been married to her husband Justin for nearly 11 years. He builds and fixes mountain bikes for a living, and she is a sex columnist, a sex educator and a sex worker who engages in consensual sex for money. It’s not a conventional life, but it works wonderfully for the Australian couple.“I know we are a rare couple. Our life and marriage is built on a foundation of strong friendship, trust, love, and respect,” Eva told Huffpost. “I don’t know if the life we live is for everyone, but it works for us. I love our world.”You may be wondering if Justin ever gets jealous, and if Eva’s work has an impact on their sex life. Read on to hear from Justin about how they make it work.And perhaps the best is yet to come for the 40-something couple. According to Match.com’s annual Singles in America report, the best age for sex is 66 for women and 64 for men. Go here for insights from sex therapists about why this is. We’ll ask Eva and Justin to report back in about 20 years ;)Xo, Ashley In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “What do you do when a partner won’t communicate? He’s an amazing father, a hard worker, honest and trustworthy but an emotional vault (I call him my statue) to the extreme. I cannot crack him, no matter what. It’s starting to feel like our relationship is too surface level.”Washington DC-based psychotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMotte, founder of the DC Counseling and Psychotherapy Center, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“It can feel incredibly isolating if you enjoy intimate communication and your life partner does not share that craving. Has he always been the strong silent type? Or has something changed? It sounds like he’s been nicknamed your ‘statue’ for quite a while. And it also sounds like he possesses some tremendous strengths.“It’s interesting, we often fall in love with someone for the ways that they are different from us, and this helps create a healthy balance. Then, once we’re committed, it’s common to start trying to shape and mold our partners to change to become more like ourselves.“Deep down, we all want to be loved and respected for who we are. So try saying something like this: ‘I’m having a hard time lately. If I’m honest, it relates to something I’ve been aware of since we met. I enjoy open communication and I think I have always enjoyed connecting through open conversation more than you. I think I imagined that as we built a family together, that difference would resolve itself. Instead, I’m struggling with it now more than ever. Do you think we could set aside some time every week to look in each other’s eyes and talk? I respect that we are different in this area, but it would really mean a lot to me.’“By phrasing your concerns kindly and respecting his core personality, your concerns are likely to be heard. If not, couples’ therapy is a wonderful way to strengthen communication skills and enhance relational intimacy. (If something has changed, and he was once super talkative, explain that you’ve noticed a shift and ask him why he’s changed. Seek couples therapy if he struggles to explain his transformation.)”
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