8 signs a marriage won’t last

According to wedding photographers No Images? Click here       It can be tempting to share every little thing you do on social media: that Instagram-worthy avocado toast, a perfectly sherbet-colored vacation sunset and, of course, the photos of you and your S.O. that practically scream #couplegoals. But recent research suggests that couples who constantly post about each other on social media may be far from perfect. According to a recent study, over-posting about a partner may indicate relationship insecurity. “On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible,” the researchers wrote. A story we published this week provides more insights into why people overshare and what can be gleaned from it. And next time someone jokingly asks, “If you didn’t Instagram it, did it even happen?” remember that the answer is yes, yes it did. Xo, Ashley Rockman   In case you missed it Wedding photographers spend a lot of time with their clients, both on the big day and the months leading up to it. And in some cases, what they see through the camera lens are glaring signs the new marriage isn’t going to last. Read on for eight red flags a new couple may be headed for divorce. Ask an expert   A reader writes, “I am a 35-year-old who recently got out of a very bad relationship with a manipulative man and was guided to therapy. While spending the past year working on issues with past relationships, I also finally dealt with the grief I have been carrying around since my mother passed from breast cancer 22 years ago. I feel amazing now. I accidentally met a wonderful man. He recently told me he had a premature son with a woman who lied and did all these horrible things to him. The baby was born at 24 weeks and lived 79 days. He finally talked about it with me and was so honest and lost in the tragedy and crying so openly. I am concerned with where he is at with his grief. My question is, is it ok to tell a partner they need to work on themselves for our relationship and go to therapy or I can't continue to get serious?” Psychotherapist M. Gary Neuman, New York Times bestselling author and founder of the Neuman Method, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what he had to say: “Your initial message doesn’t need to be either he goes to therapy or else. Ideally, you want him to be the person who, like you, wants to work through challenging issues. He can’t be expected to find the answers or change his life overnight, but his commitment to therapy will show you he’s willing to be a person who chooses to grow in life, even through incredible hardship. “Your message could be that you have learned the benefit of therapy. You love him and want to help him find his way through this trauma. If he is unwilling, even if because he’s too afraid to go near the pain, you have every right to reconsider a serious relationship. You’ve learned how life’s pain can create more pain in life if we aren’t willing to understand how we’ve been affected and how to practically minimize future related pain. If you feel that his lack of therapy will not offer you the consistent love you deserve in a relationship, step back as a lover and choose to be as close a friend as you’d like." If you have a relationship question that you would like answered in a future newsletter, please e-mail it to us at relationships@huffpost.com. Your name will not be used.   #TBT Artist Curtis Wiklund has been sketching life with his wife and kids for the past few years. “I tend to draw moments that made me feel something,” he told HuffPost. “Those moments are sometimes hard to notice in real life, and even harder to articulate to someone else. But when I can draw it, I hope that somebody else knows what I’m talking about when they see it.” Check out his beautiful illustrations, which perfectly capture love in the little moments. Links we love: What To Do If You Think Your Friend Is About To Marry The Wrong Person 38 Award-Winning Wedding Photos You Don’t Want To Miss This Is What Your Hairstylist Really Thinks When You Switch Salons    .     No moon dust. No B.S. Just a completely essential daily guide to achieving the good life. Subscribe here. Like what you see? Share it. Can't get enough? You'll also love: HuffPost Must Reads. ©2018 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 You are receiving this email because you signed up for updates from HuffPost Feedback | Privacy Policy | Unsubscribe    . - - Preferences  |  Unsubscribe